If you have taken the time to read the “About Us” page then you know that I have been married to the # One Traveling Companion for 23 years, nearly all of them happily, nearly 🙂 You all know what I am saying 😉
I am also the mother of two girls, a 16 y/o and 11 y/o, and yep the 16 y/o happens to be gay. She likes girls, which is funny because when she was younger I would always say to her when I got frustrated with the hubby, F just be gay that way you have a wife and you won’t get frustrated! Ha, go figure she was listening to me. It really is NOT a big deal in our house, for many reasons. Brad and I were raised with parents that accepted anyone that was kind, caring, and loving. It didn’t matter their race, nationality, income level, gender, sexuality. You just had to be a good person. We went to colleges that were VERY diverse, and Brad was majoring in the Theater Department, yeah you couldn’t fit anymore of a diverse group of people into one department if you tried.
So with that all said we are all behind the whole push for everyone to be able to declare their love for one another and live in marital bliss 😉
As my step dad would say why should we be the only ones to live in hell on earth ;), let everyone get married. He is joking (I think).
17 States in the USA have laws stating that Same Sex Marriage is legal in their state, CA, CT, DE, HI, IA, IL, ME, MD, MA, MN, NH, NJ, NM, NY, RI, VT, and WA – plus Washington, D.C. We have a ways to go, but we are getting there.
The following countries recognize Same Sex Marriage: Netherlands, Belgium, Spain, Canada, South Africa, Norway, Sweden, Portugal, Iceland, Argentina, Denmark, France, Brazil, Uruguay, and New Zealand – plus Britain.
For anyone that has gotten this far and is not in agreement with same sex marriage for religious reasons, moral reasons, or because of how you were raised I would ask that you take 90 minutes to watch a documentary called Bridegroom. It is available to watch streaming on Netflix. The quick story is that in 2011 Tom Bridegroom and Shane Bitney Crone were in a loving, monogamous, life relationship. They were for all intense and purposes married. They just didn’t have that flipping bit of paperwork declaring it. Got it? Good. They owned a house, business and a dog named Justin Bobby together, how more together could they be? Well in the state of California and many others they HAD to have that piece of paper.
On May 7th, 2011 there was a tragic accident, Tom was on a roof top taking some pictures of a friend of his and Shane’s, he stepped back lost his footing and fell. Their friend who is deaf, ran to get help and Tom was transported to the hospital. This is where having that piece of paper declaring who you are is NEEDED. Shane was not allowed to see Tom, not allowed to say goodbye, not allowed to hold his hand. Tom passed away, and Shane was denied the right to be by his side. Who gives anyone the right to deny this? Love is Love. Watch here what happened to Shane in this short YouTube video, and how he dealt with Tom passing.
After viewing Shane’s heartbreak and what he endured after Tom’s passing, and then watching the documentary I know many people who were on the fence about this, now feel that marriage should be for all, it should be an equality.
I look at my sassy teenager, and yes at 16 she is sassy and there are days when I declare that I am going to bury her in the backyard, and I can’t imagine her not being able to have the right to marry her love one day. She is a dedicated athlete, student, friend, daughter, sister, girlfriend, and an all around good person. She goes out of her way to say Hi to the kid at school who looks lonely, she makes encouragement cards to team mates on the track team who need that extra boost. She shakes the hands of all the athletes as they line up to start a race, yes she does to the annoyance of her coach, and wishes them good luck. She writes with a passion, reads like there is no tomorrow, and she is the most LOYAL friend that anyone could ask for. If you were to meet her, you would have no idea that she is gay, she is not about shoving it down anyones throat, she is about being her. A funny, vibrant teenager who wants to get good grades and go to college.
Who am I, who are you to say that my daughter, your son or anyone else cannot declare their love for another and be recognized and protected under the law.
Brad and I have several very, very good friends who are in an interracial marriage, and when this all first came to light one of them posted their wedding photo on Facebook and stated the following, “Forty years ago this would have been illegal too.”
What am I hoping to get out of this post? I am not sure, I hope to touch hearts, I hope to open minds, I hope one person stops, hears, and listens. The world needs more hugs, more love, more compassion. We need to encourage, uplift and support each other. At the end of the day even if you don’t agree, it doesn’t affect you, we are not asking you to marry a gay person, we are asking for everyone to have the right to marry who they love.
Thanks for taking the time to stop by, read this and I hope you set aside the time to watch the documentary, it really is a tear jerker, so grab a box of tissues… Have a great day.